Does reading the word evoke any emotions?
If it does, I am betting you have had your fair share of experience with it.
I learned through the years about what I wanted in terms of a relationship - what I would or would not accept - of them and my own actions or reactions. I kept my radar on for the red flags. Even after a second failed marriage, I realized I hadn't been aware of all the warning signs - but in hindsight? I probably did see the selfishness but thought all the other bad things that weren't present made it enough to follow through with.
So, now, more years have passed, I'm longer in the tooth and hopefully smarter. I was not against matrimony but it was going to take something special. His name is Dennis. And though this was not a problem, I'd like to share it.
We were friends at work. So when we went out socially I never expected him to open my car door. (I told him so. He insisted he wanted to. Fine.) Also, through years of being friends I had that womans intuition of him having a jealous streak? So during our socializing and eventual dating stage, I kept my radar primed - watching and waiting for the reactions to my interaction with men at stores, work, or bars. No blips on the screen - nothing. I took it slow anyway then I finally had to ask him straight up. Of course, he could have lied to me, but I decided my reaction would be to believe.
|Our wedding reception.|
What's the the learned lesson here? To me? Don't settle.
And be willing to look at the number one common denominator = YOU.
"EMBRACE THE GREY"